Ok, I might have exaggerated the title a little bit. ;) But the truth is, this quote has helped me find peace with the change that is going on in my life, and maybe it can help you too. Keep reading to learn more about endings as new beggings, letting go, moving on, and trusting the process of life. It is a journey, for sure. You are valid and your emotions are valid. Let’s dive in together!
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Every ending is a new beginning
I originally wrote this post on May 20, 2016. But I have to be honest with you, I ditched almost everything I wrote back then. It wasn’t bad, but it was focused too much on myself. I wanted to include more information that could be useful to you too.
Since then (obviously) life has gone forward. I have learned so much more about letting go, ending chapters, and starting new ones. Even though I don’t always remember this quote, I do still hold it dear. It reminds me that you need to clear out the space, so there is room for something else, something new, something better and more suited. The ending of something doesn’t actually mean the end, it means a new beginning.
It is the same as when you need to clear out your closet of things that don’t serve you anymore. Clothes that are emotionally outdated, don’t fit or are worn to shreds need to go so there is space for new garments that represent who you are today. For clothes that bring you joy today.
Going through changes in life
If you are reading this article, most likely you are going through a change at the moment. It can be anything from a job change to a break-up.
“End of an era” moment
I have learned that there are a lot of events in our lives that have an “end of an era” feeling. Often, yes, those are relationships, but sometimes it can be an apartment change or letting go of a favorite sweater you have loved for years. And honestly, it doesn’t matter how big or small it looks to the foreign eye. If that is something that you really liked and enjoyed, it is fine to be sad once the time together is over.
And honestly, it doesn’t matter how big or small it looks to the foreign eye. If that is something that you really liked and enjoyed, it is fine to be sad once the time together is over.
Break-up as a reason for the change
However, the most possible reason why you are here is the end of a relationship, romantic or platonic. I have recently gone through a break-up with a very dear friend of mine. In the process, I have realized that a break-up with a friend can be as painful as the ones we have with romantic partners.
They differ of course, but friends still occupy a big part of our lives and the void is still noticeable. I don’t want to compare pain here, it is incomparable, a very personal feeling. We should never say, ”Ooh, it is just [insert your own word here]. That is not as bad as [insert something else here].”
We should never say, ”Ooh, it is just [insert your own word here]. That is not as bad as [insert something else here].”
So that is the reason why I am here. Looking to close one chapter, to open a new one. The ending is the beginning of something new. Or at least, an ending offers a clear space, where anything can blossom. And let’s hope (and work towards) it being something that is better, better for you, better for where you are today, and better for your future.
And let’s hope (and work towards) it being something that is better, better for you, better for where you are today, and better for your future.
Endings are sad and often painful
There is no way to sugarcoat this, ending things is hard, sad, and painful. And even more, these feelings are usually not over in one day. They might be a part of your life for weeks, months, maybe even years. That might not be what you want to hear at this moment, but it is the truth. But the truth is also that you will get through it. The pain and other bad feelings will lessen and you will come out of this experience stronger, happier, and more like you.
But the truth is also that you will get through it. The pain and other bad feelings will lessen and you will come out of this experience stronger, happier, and more like you.
It is all for the better
I truly believe the more you let yourself feel and be in the moment, the more you will feel free. It sucks that something that was dear to you is over. But let’s face the truth as well, it might be for the better.
Whether it is an ex-lover or ex-friend, if you both have broken things off, it means that something wasn’t right. Either for both of you or for one of you. You need to respect that decision, because do you want to be together with a person who doesn’t want to be with you? I will go ahead and say that you don’t. And not just that you don’t, you deserve better! You deserve someone who wants to be with you.
Letting go of something you enjoyed
If you were friends or partners with someone, you definitely had lots in common. Otherwise, you wouldn’t become an item. Most likely you had a lot of good times together. You shared laughs, thoughts, and your lives. And I think that is the most painful and challenging part of breaking up. Believing that it is the right decision to end things, but also to not hate the good memories.
And I think that is the most painful and challenging part of breaking up. Believing that it is the right decision to end things, but also to not hate the good memories.
I can tell you I have struggled with this. Once things are tainted, you want to color all that time together in grim colors. Was it really that good? Was I really that happy? Was any of it honest?
Missing the good times
But nothing is for real black and white. If you stuck together for as long as you did, it means there were great times. It might be painful to see that at this moment, but there will come a time when you will see them as a blessing. As life experience. And realize that, yes, there were truthful moments. Full of love. Full of understanding. And it is good! And it is also totally fine to miss those experiences.
Relationship with every person is different. There will be new experiences – different, better, worse, blah, etc. but none will be the same. And that is fine. It is fine to accept that. And it is fine to miss it and to let it go.
It is fine to accept that. And it is fine to miss it and to let it go.
Letting go – what a bullshit!
Oh, people who are over things are tossing this “let it go” nonsense from right to left. Or people who are not where you are now. Or people who don’t understand.
For crying out loud, you are not living in “Frozen” where you can just sing from your heart “Let it go!” and magically you will let go.
I get it.
Honestly, being in the whirl of emotions when you feel pain, shame, anger, and self-doubt, letting go is the last thing you feel like doing. You are barely holding it all together. And it is not an attractive place to be.
The best advice I have for you – live through the emotions. Let yourself feel. Learn in a safe space that emotions cannot hurt you for real and let them flood you. Let them come. Don’t resist. Don’t try to let go. Let it out.
The letting go part happens when you have felt and experienced your emotions. When you are no more in the epicenter of this event. When it starts to feel old. And when you are tired of living through it every day. You are starting to feel dull about it, and you feel like you are ready to move on.
And here is another piece of advice on how to move on better:
- Don’t hold on to the bad emotions. Don’t let them define you. When you feel the pull to move on, do it. Don’t overthink it. Also, it is fine to once in a while feel like you are back in the painful place. The recovery will not be linear, it will be bumpy. But nevertheless, it will go uphill. Believe the process!
- Limit exposure of that person. A very crucial step in letting go – unfollow them on social media, try to not interact with them in real life, and limit any connections. You don’t need the constant reminder of painful memories. Let things pass, then you can reconsider friending them online or in real life.
The recovery will not be linear, it will be bumpy. But nevertheless, it will go uphill. Believe the process!
Starting a new chapter – when the ending has become a beginning
After a while of the break-up, of any kind, even with an apartment, you will start to see the new opportunities it brings you. The freedom it offers. You will start to feel like in a freshly tidied and cleaned apartment, but instead of an apartment, it is your life. A blank page, if you will.
You will start to feel like in a freshly tidied and cleaned apartment, but instead of an apartment, it is your life. A blank page, if you will.
And that is where this quote “Every ending is a new beginning” shines at its finest. The confirmation that truly every ending is a new beginning. You will start to notice opportunities that wouldn’t be possible for you in the previous relationship. Or because you have this free space, you can welcome something else into your life. It can be a friend. It can be a pet or a hobby. Or maybe it is just more time for yourself or more time for rest.
You will start to notice opportunities that wouldn’t be possible for you in the previous relationship.
You will definitely also notice that you start to feel more confident in who you are. Who you truly are. What are your values. What you believe in. It is always so beautiful when you meet yourself again for the first time. When you are sure of yourself, confident, happy, and content. Life’s good, baby!
It is always so beautiful when you meet yourself again for the first time. When you are sure of yourself, confident, happy, and content. Life’s good, baby!
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You never know why it is a blessing
This is what often helps me. If something doesn’t work out, it may actually be a blessing. Or just a shift moment in life. It doesn’t necessarily mean that life or God hates me if I get struggle in my life. Always trust the process, and trust the big picture.
If something doesn’t work out, it may actually be a blessing.
But that said, don’t get lazy. ;) Go out and do things, find ways for yourself to feel good, invest in yourself and your well-being. Fly. Fall and fly again.
We go up and down, up and down. Life is not a side of a triangle – perfectly linear up. Life is the sea. or mountain. Life is fluctuating, changing, and most of all – messy. It is better to ride the waves rather than try to control them.
Life is not a side of a triangle – perfectly linear up. Life is the sea. or mountain. Life is fluctuating, changing, and most of all – messy.
Yeah, but that said… I know it sounds so poetic and … easy. I know I am definitely not perfect at riding the wave. I am more of an “Oh, there are waves? I will stay on the coast.” person. But, you know, I am learning too. And I know I enjoy riding the wave when I get a kick of it. And it sometimes happens. And sometimes I lay flat on the ocean floor, slowly drowning. And then I swim up and grab that board again. Sometimes with help of someone, sometimes on my own. Just so you know, I am not perfect, and neither are you and not that even that is the goal.
I think one of the most admirable qualities is to never give up and never lose hope.
I think one of the most admirable qualities is to never give up and never lose hope.
And cheers to that!
May this ending is a new beginning for you! Wishing you all the best.
I will be honored if you choose to share your “every ending is a new beginning” story in the comments! So we can support each other, and someone can learn from your experience. Your story matters!